This mental barrier has come from the voice inside of you which feeds you with negativity and is what creates depression, anxiety, anger, and low self-esteem.
All the above cause a lack of sleep, procrastination, fears of moving forward in life, withdrawal from social events amongst others, and in many cases, fears of failure. This can also lead you to compare your life to everyone else’s and judge where you are in your life compared to where they are. You feel that by now you should be a lot further in life, as others are.
Your confidence is shattered and because of this, you have very little creativity which has reduced your self-motivation. In moments where you do feel inspired for change, ideas may come to you that make you feel good again. However, these become short-lived and when you attempt them, you start to procrastinate and find excuses not to follow through. It becomes easy to be distracted by your phone, social media, or anything else that seems a good reason not to see it through. But as time goes by, you don’t feel fulfilled by those simple distractions.
The persistent voice that tells you, ‘you can’t do this or that’ or ‘you’re not good enough’ is what we call the analytical mind, the intruder, the ego-mind, the monkey mind, and various other names. This part of the mind is like a radio that can’t be switched off. When you consistently analyse and overthink, you only fuel the analytical/ego-mind. You have not lost your mind, you are normal. But you have to take back control, by having conscious awareness.
This is what you can do to quieten the analytical mind to bring you more awareness:
- Stop and look at nature, enjoy it. Be present with it;
- Do art or coloring-in;
- Exercises help to quieten the mind;
- Be aware of your thoughts. Whatever negative story the analytical/ego mind tells you, change it to something positive and believable for yourself, for example, if it says you are not good enough, then answer with a ‘yes I am good enough’ and find examples where you are good enough or where you have been good enough;
- Do what makes you happy;
- Never judge what the analytical/ego mind tells you. Whatever it does say, you can answer with a ‘thank you’ and leave it at that;
It can take time to quieten this part of the mind. Sometimes the voice can be overwhelming and too much to deal with on your own. If this is the case for you, then book now for one free session.
In this session we can discuss what you are experiencing in terms of your mental barrier – be it depression, anxiety, anger, or low self-esteem. Then I can explain to you how the coaching will benefit you in order for you to feel happier, have more peace of mind, and feel more fulfilled, leaving you to move forward with confidence and inspiration.
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