Do you feel like a fish going around and around in a fish bowel from one year to the next, having no direction or clarity and possibly making you feel anxious or depressed? I ask clients what is their vision for life and they very often struggle to answer the question. Most of the time […]
Category Archives: blog
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Nov
Nov
If you find yourself in situations where it is hard to say no, while feeling horribly guilty for saying no, it is time to raise your confidence and self-esteem. Not saying no, makes you feel like a complete pushover and you get angry with yourself. You find that people don’t respect your boundaries and expect […]
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Oct
Oct
Often heard lately, are the news stories of yet another company making losses and having to close doors, while people have feared to lose their jobs, creating uncontrollable anxiety. It is very unfortunate and being retrenched can affect your confidence and self-esteem that may already be affected by other factors. The word is that the economy […]
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Oct
Oct
Living in South Africa where people do not obey the rules of the road, creates anger in drivers leading often to road rage. The attitude of ‘When in Rome, do as the Romans do,” exasperates the situation. Whereby more and more people ignore road markings and signs and generally do not follow the rules of […]
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Oct
Oct
I remember when I was at my lowest point in life feeling depressed, anxious and angry at the world. I cried for five days non-stop. My good friend at the time, insisted I go with her to a talk, by an inspiring speaker. It was only an intro at a small fee, but I went. […]
01
Oct
Oct
We find ourselves reacting to people, reacting to circumstances and the drama in the news. Then we create all sorts of emotions and beliefs which we program into our mind and carry all of this around like a very heavy backpack on our shoulders every day. Because of the weight we feel, we snap at [...]
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Sep
Sep
Resistance to change along with negative feelings and beliefs can contribute to depression and anxiety which lowers our emotional intelligence (EQ). Change is hard to face only because you have fears which limit you and cause you to remain in your comfort zone. Your Reticular Activating System, the Psycho-Cybernetic Mechanism and the Amygdala are on […]
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Sep
Sep
Your choices determine your path in life but when your emotional intelligence (EQ) is low, you lose your power to make decisions which then leads to anxiety and possibly eventual depression. Emotions can ‘paralyse’ you in such a way that you don’t get out of bed or leave home, regardless of the fact that you […]
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Sep
Sep
Believing in yourself, your abilities and your skills will raise your self-esteem. Often, failure to believe in yourself stems from other people’s opinions. As a result, you minimise yourself and put yourself in the pits while you put others on a pedestal. Looking at it in this regard, I’m sure you will agree, is not […]
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Aug
Aug
Many of us allow a build-up of emotions such as fears, doubts, irritation, frustration and anger all contributing to anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. Common of these include fearing the future, fear of loss, anger and doubting your capabilities. Some people think that holding on to negative emotions will make them feel better. However, when […]