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Placing too much value on other people’s affirmation means that your self-esteem is overly dependent on external validation rather than your own intrinsic value. The underlying issue is that you there is a part of you that feels you are not good enough and you are not seeing your own true worth.  You rely on […]

Grief, whether from losing a loved one through death or the end of a relationship, follows a similar emotional process which can lead to depression and anxiety.  You may be filled with regrets and guilt, wishing there was more you could’ve done, and more you could have said following a loss or failed relationship.  You […]

A hidden loyalty can be a silent saboteur, leading to your deep emotional suffering, low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. It is often seen as a virtue—a sign of integrity, devotion, and strong character.  Many of us unknowingly hold onto hidden loyalties, often ingrained from our family system or external relationships, without realising how they shape […]

Burnout is more than just feeling overworked or tired, it’s a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged and excessive stress. It can lead to diminished performance, feelings of helplessness, and even depression or anxiety. To effectively combat burnout, it’s crucial to understand its root causes and how to address them. Causes […]

People-pleasing can have a profoundly negative impact on your confidence and self-esteem. When you prioritize pleasing others over your own well-being, you risk losing touch with who you are. The pursuit of external validation and recognition often leads to neglecting your own needs and values. Over time, this can erode your self-worth, self-belief, self-trust, self-respect, […]

Allowing your thoughts and emotions to run wild during difficult times, actually goes against your mental health and can only harm any form of mindfulness for yourself. If you can’t control your thoughts and emotions, you are in trouble forever. When life feels in ruins, it’s important to remember that good can emerge from the […]

Anxiety and depression break down your self-esteem, ultimately resulting in a lack and inspiration for life. The pain of what you are holding onto will hold you back in your life causing feelings of stuckness, lack of purpose, questioning the point of life, and never feeling happy about life. You may wonder how happiness starts […]

As a Transformation Life Coach in Johannesburg and Family Constellations facilitator, my work focuses on helping individuals dissolve pain.  Pain and trauma can be carried forward from past generations in such a way that you may not even recognise the patterns and quite often, only a professional can see them. If you are willing and […]

Self-judgment is one of the fundamental causes of low confidence, which often leads to diminished self-esteem. The internal dialogue worsens as you begin to second-guess yourself, becoming overly critical. This self-criticism can spiral out of control, causing your confidence and self-esteem to plummet to an all-time low. When it comes to your self-esteem and confidence, […]