I often hear clients saying I am too busy for this or that. They say they ‘I don’t have time for myself, my family and friends nor for exercises’. Lack of time can leave you feeling overwhelmed, fearful and can cause anxiety and even anxiety attacks.
If you have anxiety because you feel you lack time, look where you have constant distractions. It may be you are avoiding the pain of doing something you don’t want to do; whereas always doing something you enjoy is more pleasurable and this is more attractive, but not always practical. By avoiding the pain, you support the habit of procrastination which only becomes worse and worse over time.
The more you hate doing something, the more you put your focus and energy on how you don’t want to do it, resulting in your own energy deteriorating by avoiding it. Denial takes up more of your energy than acceptance. If you don’t do it today, it could be worse tomorrow.
Often when you procrastinate on something and eventually do it, you think ‘oh that wasn’t so bad’, or ‘that didn’t take me as long as I thought it would’. So why waste time and energy? Rather get to it in the quickest time possible and move past it so you can focus on what is important to you.
With no routine, you start to drift away from your plans where scheduling moves you towards your plans in the most effective way for you. You have to know what to do and have a good plan for the day because as humans we do require some form of routine.
We all have the same amount of time in a day i.e. 24 hours, where many of us get done what we need to do. Therefore we must ask what makes us different to anyone else. To me, it is about your choices and how you choose to use those 24 hours. Stop living life hour by hour, and stop focussing on the lack of time. The more you focus on the lack of time, the less time you will have.
Review:
- how you can do the most amount of things, in the least amount of time;
- are they your plans or a moral obligation to please someone else. In this way, you go against what you desire and that is a bad relationship to have with yourself;
- how you can reward yourself when you have done things you don’t enjoy doing? and especially when you have accomplished something good;
- People who schedule get more time to get things done. They have a structured life of what is important to them and they accept the ‘good’ with the ‘bad’. They have vision and clarity and know what they want and where they are going. Planning takes less time for them than not having any plan at all. You are in charge of your own schedule and it is all up to you;
- You have the choice to get more done in the least amount of time.
By scheduling, you get more time to get things done. You then have a structured life of what is important to you and accept the ‘good’ with the ‘bad’. You have vision and clarity and know what you want and where you are going because planning is sensible in your life.
Remember, you are in charge of your own schedule and it is all up to you. You have the choice to get more done in the least amount of time.
If you are struggling with anxiety and possibly anxiety attacks due to lack of time, I can guide you through a process to eliminate your anxiety and provide you with the tools to manage your time so you are the master of your life.